I am almost thirty years old and I’ve been thinking about how life was supposed to look at this point in time. It is not exactly what I imagined and it’s certainly not what society says it should look like. I’m not married, I don’t have kids, I don’t own a house, and I am almost 30!!!! There are things that didn’t play out the way I hoped, but there are other things that have gone exactly to plan or better. I just received my visa to Vietnam in the mail, I will be traveling around Asia this summer, and it’s fulfilling to see that I am making these things, that I said I would do, happen. For so long I’ve said I wanted to travel, it is the one thing that I know I’ve always wanted, but I haven’t pursued it because of different circumstances that I needed to get through first. Becoming an American citizen, going to school, finding a stable job etc, were things that I needed to handle before I could travel the way I have dreamt about. Now all of those things have happened and its time to make traveling happen, and I am doing it. So although other things haven’t happened, I have to remember that the timing was based on an expectation that wasn’t my own. Because although I do want to get married and maybe have kids, and own a house, I don’t need it to happen any time soon.
Instead of doing all of the above, I have chosen to go to school and grad school, I moved to LA from Albuquerque, NM. I pursued film for a while, I started a career, I’ve learned to take care of myself on my own, I’ve learned to make new friends, and to do things the way I want to do them when I want to do them. To live a life based on societal expectations is not worth it, and I know this is not the first time you hear this, but I also know that to live a life based on your own expectations has to happen in your own timing. Living the way you want to live happens when only you are ready for it to happen.